This week’s post is all about trust! I want to talk about trusting yourself in your ability to trust other people, especially in your ability to interact with people emotionally. Beyond that, let’s discuss your ability to trust information and avoid spiraling into a world of chaos and confusion when you come across information that contradicts your belief system. Are you able to trust what information does and doesn’t resonate with you?
This is a juicy topic – and an important one – so let’s dig further into it.
Opening up emotionally is a big part of trusting others. Are you someone who downplays emotions and concerns or doesn’t feel comfortable being expressive in your emotions?
Perhaps you have been gaslighted before. This term refers to when someone else denies your reality. If you’ve experienced someone downplaying how you feel, it means you may not only have trouble trusting yourself to trust others, but you may also have trouble connecting to your body.
If this happens to you, you could end up shutting people out, not trusting people, or being completely closed off emotionally. This will result in a missed opportunity to open up to people that are actually a safe space.
When you downplay how you feel, it means you’re not expressing your emotions and allowing yourself to be authentic to who you really are – an alternative version of yourself emerges. But the problem here lies in the fact that if you want authentic relationships, you need to feel safe expressing yourself authentically without fear of judgment or abandonment.
I know firsthand how hard this can be but I also know what it’s like to come out on the other side of that fear. It’s possible – so please find inspiration in that.
It IS possible to open up to your loved ones, whether it’s a significant other, friends, or relatives. Your needs matter, and we all need to share and communicate with others about how we’re feeling. We are simply not made to hold it all in our bodies and deal with everything on our own. Human beings are wired for connections and emotional intimacy!
As I mentioned, I know how it can feel to not trust yourself to trust others from an emotional standpoint. I was afraid of being seen or of being emotional in front of others. We all experience this as human beings, but when this happens, it’s vital to drop into our bodies and trust what we feel there.
When doing this, think through who in your life can hold space for you or who can keep your emotions safe. Your body will be your guide and you won’t question if it’s trauma or old patterns creeping in. You’ll be confident in where your trust and feelings come from.
The last point I want to bring up today revolves around trusting yourself to know what information to trust. This is big if you’re new to the healing journey. If you see something that challenges something that you believe in, it could lead to you spiraling and overthinking. You may end up with feelings of fear and confusion in trying to decipher what information is right.
When this chaos sets in, you really need to be able to decipher what resonates with you. From there, you’ll be less likely to let other people’s belief systems affect you. I’ve seen it before – sometimes people with a history of codependency or trauma think that if someone says something with conviction, it must be right. But that’s simply not true.
Allow yourself to be rounded in the certainty of what’s true for you. It goes back to your body and intuition and being able to trust in those things. When you can trust them, there will be no need to convince yourself because knowing something in your body is SO much more powerful than knowing something in your mind.
I know I sound like a broken record at this point, but I can’t stress it enough: using your connection to your body and intuition as your guide as far as self-trust and trusting others goes is the best route. Once you learn to do that, you simply can’t go wrong! Trust me. Or more importantly – trust yourself.
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