I get a lot of questions regarding romantic relationships, especially how people can make sure they’re not settling when it comes to love. For that reason, today’s post is dedicated to discussing how magnetism is key to stop chasing the wrong relationships and how we can all better set ourselves up for success romantically.

Keep reading to learn more about how you can enhance your love life and stop self-sabotaging when it comes to romantic relationships.

Our Dating Values

Dating can be super fun and exciting, but it can also be confusing and frustrating. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be! To start simplifying your romantic life, begin by examining what your values are in the person you date. 

Ask yourself the following to get to the bottom of this:

• What are your values when it comes to dating?
• What do you value in the person you are dating?
• What are your pre-existing beliefs about men (or whatever people you wish to be involved with romantically)?
• What beliefs do you have about love?
• How are these beliefs serving you?

This is the BEST place to start in your relationship self-discovery journey.

The Power of Our Subconscious

I want to talk a bit about how powerful our subconscious is in relation to dating. Our subconscious mind is very primal and driven to focus on just one thing at a time. That means that our brain is trained to look for what you say is significant.

So, if you’re interested in dating men and you hold an internal narrative that men are pigs or that they’re all liars, or anything negative about that group of people in general, that’s what your mind will zero in on. Your mind will follow the rule of “what you speak is what you see,” and you’ll tend to only notice men doing things that fall  in line with that version of them that you’ve internally conjured.

If you notice yourself doing that, you need to decide to look at men differently. Begin seeing them as people who are helpful, sweet, loving, kind, and other great adjectives. Because the truth is – there are so many great guys out there (or women, if that’s who you’re into)! We can’t let a bad experience or the action of some dictate how we see the majority.

We have a lot of power in the ability to decide how we see things. So let’s harness that to believe that the person we will end up in a relationship with will be loving, happy, and helpful.

Also be honest with yourself as to what you believe you deserve out of a relationship. There could be a disconnect between what you WANT to have and what you believe you deserve, which may be holding you back from attaining your desires. 

Switching how you speak about men and what you believe about yourself is so powerful – you just need to practice changing your perceptions in order to get what you really want out of your love life.

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Honesty as Our Liberation: The Bottom Line

Being truly honest with yourself about the experiences you’ve had and how they affect your love life is the path to getting what you want romantically. Don’t let the actions of few represent the majority when it comes to love. Speak about men differently and believe all good things about them. 

Let your magnetism and what you love about yourself translate over to what you want others to love about you, too! These steps can help you to stop chasing the wrong things when it comes to love and will allow you to fall into a rewarding and fulfilling relationship.

Thank you sooo much for reading!

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Are you ready to date with certainty & become the woman who actually embodies what she desires in her dating life? Join the waitlist for my LIVE dating program coming in January 2022. Save your early access spot today before it closes!

See you back here for the next one! 

xx Beatrice