I’ve noticed time and time again that ambitious, accomplished, successful women have trouble connecting with love interests in a meaningful way. I want to explore that idea further in today’s post, which is dedicated to helping you understand how you can treat dates less like a job interview in order to find a relationship you love being in.
Read on to learn how you can share your passions and interests, how to accept help, and confidently embark on romantic relationships without letting your success stand in your way.
I want to just say that I know that talking about this can be triggering – I get that. I, too, was triggered when I first came to the realization that being ambitious, accomplished, and successful in business was hindering my dating life.
But being triggered can be a good thing because it provides us with information about ourselves. And I’m here to help you get over this trigger and get to the route of how you can best interact with others when dating to lead to healthy and happy relationships.
It’s important to understand that dating is not the same as job hunting. I found myself treating dates like job interviews, and that was NOT a successful method for finding the kind of partner I’m looking for. That’s because the skills that make us great at what we do don’t apply the same way to dating. Sharing your accomplishments does not guarantee a second date the way it would score you a second-round interview, and that’s really important to remember.
So you’re probably wondering, well what should I be doing on dates instead?! Let’s dive into that further below.
A great way to authentically connect with people on a romantic level is to share your interests and passions with them. You want to magnetize people to you, and the best way to do that is to recognize things you love and to truly love who you are. Realize what makes you remarkable and what you love about life.
Delve into your hobbies and what makes you interested and passionate. Answer the question, what makes you tick?
Just because you’re ambitious and career-oriented doesn’t mean that’s your passion. So you should communicate your true life’s passion on dates. Don’t be afraid to reveal what you’re really interested in, because the right person or people will find your interests to be an interesting thing about you. Be confident in your passions!
Maybe you’re like me and have a passion for perfume, roller skating, reality tv, and wine. Or maybe your interests lie somewhere else – in reading, books, learning, sports, travel -the possibilities are endless! All you need to do is understand what lights you up and share that with the people you’re dating so you can see if they’re a true click for you.
Attracting authentic people means you have to be authentic about what you’re interested in. People will LOVE to get behind the things you love, too. For that reason, let people get to know the real you and don’t hide behind your career.
Another thing that’s important when pursuing a romantic relationship is to allow yourself to receive help and support. This has been hard for me, too – and I know many others struggle with it. Don’t be a martyr that feels like you need to sacrifice yourself to do everything without help. Don’t be resistant to that support.
Let yourself receive without feeling like you need to exhaust your resources for reparation. Realize that there are people out there that WANT to help you without receiving anything in return. Once you open yourself up to that, it’s such a great feeling and it can really help you build a relationship.
Allow yourself to be soft in your relationships and put your armor down. Think about how you desire to be and imagine what it’d be like to be in a relationship where you feel safe and you’ve broken free of any limiting beliefs you have about love and romance.
How would you show up for that person and in that relationship? I want you to really ponder those questions as you consider everything I’ve had to say in this post about finding love and how you approach dating.
Thank you sooo much for reading!
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