I want to talk about how our boundaries contain our worthiness.
I think boundaries can mean so many different things.
Traditionally, we get to know boundaries as being telling people no, telling people yes. Telling people what’s okay and what’s not.
Well, that’s GREAT because that’s what boundaries are and that’s part of what they are for. But what if I told you boundaries are also a way to contain your WORTHINESS?
When it comes to job opportunities and a working environment, boundaries play a huge role.
At the same time, boundaries work hand-in-hand with your worthiness and how you view yourself. So for example, if you’re accepting a low-paying job offer, you’re doing yourself a disservice. You’re telling yourself you aren’t worthy of more or setting the boundary for more.
Remember, you’re putting your time, your energy, your resources into the job you’re accepting. Make sure it’s worth your time and that you accept it on terms that feel good to you!
You don’t have to lower your standards.
So, before you grab any job opportunity in your career, always consider your boundaries. Learn to value yourself… make sure that you’re compensated accordingly or paid at least close to your range.
Now, if the boundaries and worthiness make sense in the job analogy I mentioned earlier, what if we take the same principle and apply it in different areas of life?
For example, in a relationship. It needs to favor both ends. It can’t be that one wins and the other loses. Yes, everybody’s worthy of a good relationship, everybody’s worthy of what they desire. So, we need to set our boundaries to avoid imbalanced relationships.
We don’t need to worry about what other people think of us. By letting them know of our boundaries, we show them our worthiness.
We don’t need to feel ashamed because worthiness doesn’t have to be explained.
It is necessary to know your boundaries so you don’t compromise your worth as a person. I mean, you can make up the rules because sometimes what’s fine with others, it doesn’t mean that’s how it has to be for you.
It doesn’t mean that’s all that’s available to you. It’s just something that could be.
The question is do you want to be?
There’s this belief that, if I pass in my 30’s and I’m not in a relationship, I’m not married, I don’t have kids then the world’s going to crumble.
I get you. But here’s the thing…
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You are in control. You dictate your feelings, not someone else. Remember that! You don’t need to compromise worthiness in setting a boundary just because you want to be in a relationship.
You need to tell them, “This is where I’m at, meet me.”
If singleness and aloneness mean you contain your worthiness instead of being in a relationship where your boundaries are not respected, then it’s totally fine.
You don’t need to wait for a relationship to make you happy. It’s all in you, you need to decide how you feel. You don’t need to be in a lack state or frantic about things as long as you know your worthiness and your boundaries.
I want you to believe in your worthiness and keep your boundaries whenever you decide about job opportunities, relationships, friendships, and other aspects of your life. Keep whatever happiness and joy you have and just add to it.
Thank you sooo much for reading! Remember, you don’t have to rely your happiness on someone else. Don’t wait for a relationship to make you happy. It’s got to be the gravy. It can’t be the main course.
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