Self-doubt is something we ALL struggle with at some point.
But, how do you overcome it and truly step into your authentic self?
The interesting thing about self-doubt is that it sometimes causes us to shape-shift. It causes us to become an alternate version of ourselves.
Sometimes, we’ll let someone else’s opinion impact the way we view ourselves and the way we carry ourselves.
What happens when we give into this self-doubt tendency and “shape-shift?” I’ll give you some examples in this post and I’ll also show you how to overcome self-doubt and step into your authentic self!
When we let others’ opinions and thoughts impact how we view ourselves, we start showing up differently. Less authentically.
I was raised in a home where my mother would often say that I didn’t have any wisdom. She would say that in a way insinuating that I didn’t know how to apply myself in situations and that I didn’t know how to say the right things to the right people.
First of all, according to my astrology, I’m a pretty blunt person! So, she’s not all the way wrong. I am a very say-it-how-it-is kind of person. However, hearing this kind of feedback at such a young age can be difficult to take in, and it tends to lead to self-doubt.
Whenever I would get comments like that, it would cause me to show up as a watered-down version of myself. Some of my friends would ask, “You used to be so bubbly. What happened to you?”
It’s going to be the same deal, whether it’s a stranger or somebody close to you. When they have something negative to say about you, you will take what they have to say and try to change yourself.
What I felt growing up was that I was messing things up and I needed to be fixed.
All because of what someone said, we fall into this pattern of focusing on how we can change ourselves and fix ourselves. Our minds start thinking of all the ways we can shape-shift and essentially become an alternate version of ourselves.
When you’re acting outside of yourself, you can’t do it for too long before you revert to who you really are. You’re real! So your TRUE self is going to come out no matter what.
When we’re talking about overcoming self-doubt, we’re also talking about overcoming limiting beliefs.
Understand from the time that you were born to now, you’ve heard A LOT of things. A lot of thoughts, opinions, and feedback from others.
You might have clung to a lot of things other people have told you and you don’t even realize your brain has grabbed onto that and it’s operating the feedback in the background. It’s operating in the subconscious mind. It’s a life’s work to continue to uncover all this stuff.
It’s a life’s work, but it gets easier and easier as you continue to do it.
I won’t lie… uncovering all of these limiting beliefs in the beginning is the toughest because it’s new.
But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible! You deserve happiness, you deserve to love yourself exactly as you are. So I want you to ask yourself things like, “Would I rather suffer and cycle through these negative thoughts based on other people’s beliefs, or would I rather stay dedicated and true to who I know I am?”
That’s when everything will change for you. When you can become more receptive to your own inner voice and weed out all of the negative beliefs or thoughts that aren’t true.
My upbringing impacted my beliefs and the way I perceived myself.
Going back to my past, people were not soft and available. When I say soft, I mean open. People were not soft. People were not available. People were not wanting to help in my home, my immediate family. And this is not to blame them. They did whatever they could with what they knew. But it created a belief for me.
What that created for me was a belief that people are not available for me, support is not available for me, I have to struggle and fight and do it all alone.
We have to be careful with our words because whenever we say we can’t do something, it’ll come to fruition. What you believe turns into a reality.
Remember, your brain is a very powerful tool! If you choose to believe something positive, your brain will go into solution mode and make that positive thing happen.
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I want to remind you that you are deserving of stepping into your authentic self.
Sometimes, we’ll have people in our lives who want us to show up or be a certain way. But remember, you are NOT a puppet. You are you. And you are beautiful!
It may take some time as you uncover these limiting beliefs you’ve let drag you down for some time, but it’s entirely possible to overcome it. It’s entirely possible to overcome self-doubt and finally live in your truth.
Thank you sooo much for reading! I hope this post has helped you get connected to your desire. Don’t let anything stop you from something you know you deserve and need.
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