Hello, friends. Last week, I talked a lot about the importance of energy management and managing your resources. This week, one of the resources we’re going to be talking about is money, honey! Let’s jump right in.

What is a Yo-Yo Relationship?

First of all, what do I mean by yo-yo relationship? That means it feels like it’s here today, gone tomorrow. Or maybe you get large amounts, and then you feel like you have small amounts. You just don’t feel like money is consistent in your world, and you feel scarce around it. You feel like you never have enough.

So why is it that we have this discussion around yo-yo relationships with money? It’s because money is a resource that is meant to be managed just like any other resource—your time, your energy, it’s meant to be managed. And I think that in this world of manifestation and abundance mindset, when people are first introduced to these concepts, they’re under the impression that if they’re able to attract more money into their life, that just means they don’t have to manage it.

But as with any resource we have, we want to be good stewards over it. If you let something run wild, it’s not going to stay. It’s going to go somewhere else.

Loss of Control Around Money

For me, lack of control around money would manifest as experiencing a windfall, and then it would just like trickle down and down and down towards the end of the month, and I would always find a way to spend it. Maybe you can relate to that. Even if you’re not a business owner, no matter how money comes into your life, you find a way to get rid of it. And it’s not from a place of feeling abundant and being in choice with your money. It comes from a place of scarcity.

Let’s say you land on one end of this spectrum, a side where you can’t spend any money at all for fun; you must be putting it into something useful. You can’t even buy a cup of coffee, because it’s a waste of money. You should be throwing it into stocks or an index fund or something, you know what I mean? But with this side of the spectrum, you can’t enjoy any of your money. You must put it all away if you wanna have any kind of financial freedom.

However, some people land on the other side of these forms of scarcity with their money, and they spend, spend, spend. They have to find a way to spend it all. And that’s another way, by the way, of saying, “I feel unsafe withholding money. I actually don’t know what to do with it. I’m actually overwhelmed by it. I don’t know what to do with abundance.”

Do you see how they’re both two extremes, and neither really sounds like you’re operating in choice? That’s the number one sign that you have a yo-yo relationship with your money.

Speaking Poorly About Money

Sign number two that you have a yo-yo relationship with money is if you speak poorly on money’s name. If you want money to stay in your world, you want to have a good experience with money. You better put some respect on the money that you have.

I used to be like this. I used to say things like, “I am broke. I don’t have enough money. Oh my God.”

But here’s the thing: you do have money as a resource. I don’t care if you make $500 a month, $1,000 a month, or $100,000 or more a month. You do have money as a resource, and it might function differently in your world if you make $1,000 a month or less versus somebody who has $100,000. Either way, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t deserve your respect because you have less of it. If you want to experience abundance, you better start learning how to be appreciative and grateful for the resources you do have and what they do allow you to do in this time.

So rather than saying something like, “I’m broke,” why don’t you just say something like, “You know what? I’m thankful that my money allows me to pay for my bills, and I can’t wait to do more things with this money, but I’m so grateful for what it does do for me right now.”

Rarely Positive About Money

The third sign you have a yo-yo relationship with money is if you only feel good about money when you have a certain amount. So maybe if somebody gifts you a certain amount of money, or if you make a certain amount during a launch for your business or you sign on a client, or if you get an unexpected raise or a bonus or something at your nine-to-five.

That’s a yo-yo relationship vibe, where it’s only when you get more of something that you respect it, that you love it, that you feel good about it. And when you have less than you like, then you talk shit about it. You speak poorly about it. You’re not a good steward of it. It’s like, going back to money being an entity, it’s like having a spouse or a partner and you’re only happy when they gift you things or only love them when they gift you things or do unexpected things for you. And then when they’re just being their normal selves, you’re just like, “You’re not enough for me. I can’t stand you.”

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Let’s Do A Recap…

I hope you enjoyed these four tips for recognizing a yo-yo relationship with money. Let me go over them one more time just so you can catch them:

The number one sign that you have a yo-yo relationship with money is if you feel out of control with money. The second sign you’re in a yo-yo relationship with money is that you speak poorly on money’s name. The third sign that you’re in a yo-yo relationship with money is if you only feel good about it when you have a certain amount, like when you make more of it or have more, and then you treat it poorly when you have less of it. And the fourth sign you have a yo-yo relationship with money is if even when you do make more, you don’t keep more.

So hopefully you found this episode to be helpful so that you can create more stability with money in your life, because money is a resource that needs to be managed. Just like any other resource, if you want more of it and if you want to feel balanced with it, and if you don’t want to feel like it’s running you, you have to manage it. The worst feeling in the world is when you feel like you’re being run by your money.

Listen, money is an inanimate object. Don’t let it run. You be in charge of it. Be friends with it, let it be an ally to you and not your adversary. I promise you, you will feel so much more abundant and in control once you balance your relationship with money and halt the yo-yo in your yo-yo relationship.

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