Hello, and welcome back! No preamble today; I want to jump right into it. Today, we are going to be talking about leadership and exercising leadership over your life. Whether it be in dating, like we’ve been talking about in the past couple of weeks; in a relationship, if you’re in a relationship; in your job, in your daily routine, just leadership in general. Are you exercising leadership over your life?
The reason I want to talk about what exercising leadership looks like is because Jupiter, the planet of abundance, is currently retrograding through Aries, the sign of leadership, creativity, inspiration, and movement. It’s been in retrograde since July 28th, I think.
Whenever a planet is in retrograde, it’s reviewing both what the planet itself represents and the sign that it’s in. So Jupiter represents abundance, knowledge, joy, and optimism. Aries, again, represents leadership and movement. It’s quick—Aries is a very quick sign. So we are in a period right now while Jupiter is retrograding through Aries of reviewing each of our experiences with and our knowledge around exercising leadership and taking action.
This season we’re in is such a good time to take a look at this. So, what is leadership, and how can we work on exercising leadership in our lives? Let’s talk about it.
Everybody defines exercising leadership differently, but I think no matter how you define leadership, if you’re a good leader, you would know that all leaders have a vision. The vision is what keeps them moving. It’s what keeps them inspired and keeps them trusting of themselves.
What is your vision? Maybe you have a vision of wanting to be in a relationship. Maybe you have a vision of wanting your relationship to improve. Maybe getting a certain job. Maybe making more money. Whatever it is, we all have the capacity to start exercising leadership in our lives.
So leaders have vision. Undoubtedly, that’s their anchor. That is their north star. That’s their north node. That’s what keeps them going. And this is what gives them courage.
Leaders are courageous. This is another key aspect of exercising leadership; leaders are willing to make bold moves, to take bold steps in dating. If you’re someone who is exercising leadership over your life, you’re not afraid to spruce up your dating profile if you feel you’re not attracting what you’re looking for. You’re not afraid to try the dating apps at all, or to be honest with someone when you know things are going nowhere so you can free them, free yourself, and twist back toward your own vision.
Next is initiative. Initiative looks like being willing to do whatever you need to in order to progress toward your vision. It always comes back to the vision, right?
So start thinking about where you can take initiative. Where are you going to step up?
I don’t want to tell you not to take no for an answer—initiative isn’t necessarily about being forceful or aggressive. I want to say…create a way where there seems to be no way. That’s what leaders do: they create a way where there seems to be no way. That means selling yourself in such a way that you seem like the only choice for whatever it is you’re trying to achieve…a job, a relationship, whatever it is.
When I was having trouble with dating, I tried every which way on my own. Eventually, I realized, “You know what, I can only get so far here on my own, and I’m still getting results that I don’t like. I need help.” And so I hired a coach. The second I recognized I was defeated, I took instant action. I was like, “This is what we’re doing.”
That’s leadership energy. If it feels right, if it feels like it’s pulling you in, leaders just go. They don’t think twice; they just move.
Leaders are very much analytical. Someone who is exercising leadership is willing to look at things, take their ego out of a situation, look at it objectively, and try to get toward the solution. Remember, leaders are interested in moving toward their vision.
So, when it comes to exercising leadership in your life, can you examine yourself? Leaders are willing to examine themselves, because they can take themselves out of the equation. Are you able to remove your pride from the situation, or do you get all up in your ego when something’s not working the way you want it to?
So how do we keep exercising leadership and inching toward the vision? Leaders are willing to rise up. They don’t just talk; they rise up to the standard that they require of themselves. So if they know the vision requires them to expand or requires them to have more resources, they are willing to do what it takes to rise up.
They’re not allergic to hard work, and they’re willing to put their ego knowledge, ideas, plans, and thoughts aside to rise to that standard. So where is your ego keeping you from stepping up? As the leader that you internally know yourself to be, where are you more of a follower than a leader in your life? Once you identify these areas and start to transform your thought process surrounding them, you’ll finally be able to step into that role of leadership.
So again, what is a leader? A leader is someone who holds themselves accountable, holds themselves to a standard, and is willing to do whatever it takes to maintain that standard, because that standard is going to lead them to their vision.
A leader takes initiative. They’re courageous. They take instant action. They are on the move.
Leaders rise up. They rise up to the standard that they hold for themselves. Leaders aren’t allergic to hard work. They’re not afraid to get their hands dirty, to get in the mud, to go backward, to go forwards. This means leaders are not afraid to start from scratch if their initial plans, ideas, and thoughts don’t work.
So think about this in dating, right? Someone who’s a leader in their dating life is not afraid to start from scratch. They can acknowledge that whatever they’ve been doing hasn’t been working, and they’re willing to scrap it and start over. They’re willing to try and try and try again.
So, be sure to think about how this applies to your business, to your work life, your career life, your dating life, your relationship, your friendships.
Now, everything I’ve gone over isn’t a complete, comprehensive list of what a leader is. And it’s not that Beatrice’s definition of a leader is a true definition. It’s subjective, but this is what I find in really good leaders and the type of leaders I’m attracted to, the types of coaches and mentors I hire, and the types of people I’m drawn to.
So be sure to consider what a leader is to you, because you might have different ideas or something to add to this. But I do hope that this was supportive to you, and I can’t wait until next week when we meet again.
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