Hello, everybody. Welcome back to The Self Love Fix. Today, I have a very special guest: Tayla Bubeck, business coach and mentor!
In fact, she’s not just a business coach and mentor…she’s also my business coach and mentor!
Tayla specializes in the human behind the business, the execution of strategy for a scalable business, and leveraging personal brands to maximize opportunities and evolution. She helps powerful players in the online world unleash their unique gifts and full potential in business and helps them create a business space where money and success aren’t their limits; instead, they become the makers of your limitless business legacy.
Please welcome Tayla!
Beatrice: So Tayla, one of the things that I find to be really, really cool about you is your perspective on business legacy.
You have such a big-picture perspective on business in our coaching industry. In every industry outside of coaching, they are extremely vision-focused, but in coaching, we can lose sight of that due to the constant cycle of “What’s the next thing?”
I’ve definitely fallen prey to that. I definitely lost the vision at one point; instead, I put my blinders on and got hyperfocused on what was right in front of me. So I’d really love to hear your perspective on business legacy, especially as it relates to the coaching industry, and maybe what you’re seeing in others versus how you view this big vision energy in business.
Tayla: This is such a brilliant topic. I find it really interesting what you said about how you lost your vision, because I actually don’t think we ever lose it. In my opinion, we all know that we have a really big vision in business, but we don’t need to know exactly what that looks like. Unfortunately, people tend to put way too much pressure on themselves to know exactly what that vision is going to look like, and that’s what overwhelms them. That overwhelm then freezes them in their tracks, and they actually never get anywhere.
I believe that people don’t really know their vision. They know what they ultimately want to accomplish and leave behind, which is their business legacy, and their business legacy will help their vision unfold, but they don’t need to know every step of that vision ahead of time.
I don’t think you know what your business legacy is and then lose it. I think your vision gets to unfold as you move forward.
But in the online coaching industry, we can easily fall prey to all the instant gratification. We can get paid before ever doing any work. We can have a million-dollar business in our first year of business. We are so incredibly blessed to be in this day and age where we have a little thing called a phone, and we can make a million dollars plus off of that phone.
However, that has taken away this aspect of long-term vision for our business legacy.
For me, in my business, I actually have no idea what it’s going to look like next year, let alone the year after that or the year after that. All I know is that my vision unfolds every single year to be something different.
So, I never tried to have it figured out. The mindset that I adopt is, why would I seek the answer I don’t know the truth for? Because as I grow, as I evolve, as I build my business legacy, my vision’s evolving and changing. So why would I put limits on that vision before it even has the chance to grow?
I feel like the people who set those markers, they only think small. They say, “My vision is to have a million-dollar business,” but to me, that is so limiting. It’s so small.
Now, having a million-dollar business is amazing. I want everyone to have the million-dollar business. However, to me, it seems like such a small marker that people set for themselves.
The reality is, instead of focusing on their business legacy, they’re chasing horizons. And as long as you chase horizons, you’re actually staying stagnant, because you’re never getting anywhere. You’re always seeking, and you will never get there, because the goalpost always shifts.
When I went through my weight loss journey, which is how I started in business, I came to recognize this hunger and obsession people had for these goals the set for themselves. They always had a certain number of kilos they wanted to lose or a set weight they wanted to hit, and as soon as they hit that, they wanted to lose ten more.
They were never happy. They were never fulfilled. And for me, the legacy is fulfillment in creating something—using your business as the vessel—that is actually going to unfold your vision. And you don’t need to know what that vision is. You just need to know it’s fucking bigger than you could ever imagine. And like that to me is iconic.
That, to me, is limitless. I don’t need to know where I’m going. I just need to know it’s big.
Beatrice: I love that so much, especially what you said about horizons. And when you corrected me on losing the vision of my business legacy—I’m getting coached in real time!
I love it because you’re right. I actually believe you’re 100% correct. And I also think that what you said about instant gratification made a lot of sense. It can easily become a distraction from your actual vision and your business legacy, right?
Sometimes when other people are doing things in the industry, if your mindset’s not solid enough, you can end up giving into the distraction of the shiny draw of the next thing as opposed to staying on that path of your vision unfolding.
Tayla: Definitely. Distraction is a mechanism of the mind, right? So the mind is going to make us do that. Essentially, everyone will be trying to recreate exactly what they don’t want.
So if I start working with someone and they say to me, “I want the business that has the freedom, the connection, all of those things,” I’m like, “Okay, so let’s have a look where you’ve created the opposite.”
The way that humans work is this: we’re trying to confirm the very opposite thing. So with me, through my coaching business, I was trying to confirm that I was special because I had a deep, deep pattern ingrained in me where I believed that I wasn’t special, but I wasn’t actually trying to confirm that I was special. I was trying to confirm the opposite.
So I did everything I could to try to distract myself from seeing that I’m actually not special, and anyone can build the business.
But when I actually looked at that, I realized, no, I am fucking special. I do fucking have something very unique to me and uniqueness.
I think people have the wrong idea of what uniqueness is. That’s why we get that distraction. That’s why we get that shiny object syndrome, because we don’t actually understand what sovereignty and authenticity within business means.
That’s why we seek for courses. That’s why we need that next marketing technique or that next coach. And listen, those can be great, and they can work. However, when they become a distraction, they can actually become a detriment instead of an aid.
Now, that’s really hard for me to say, because of course you need to know how to build a business. You need to gain the skills to build a business. You cannot just build a business off of passion.
If it’s passion and that’s all you have, you don’t have a business. You have a job. If you have skill and you’re insanely remarkable at executing that skill, you will be able to build a business, and you have to be hungry for that.
So people do get distracted, but it’s because they don’t let themselves tap into their full potential. Because when you tap into your full potential, you know how unique you are, and uniqueness proves that you don’t need to find your business legacy. It’s already in you.
That’s the gift in you. It’s already born in you, and you reveal it through your business.
Your business is not a tool to discover your legacy. It’s what you use to reveal it.
Beatrice: Something I’ve noticed about myself, and I’d be curious if this is you too, is that the evolution of my journey of investing started with learning the skills. But then in the middle, I abandoned that focus and started saying, “This will be the thing that’ll fix this. This will be the thing that’ll fix that.” It became shiny object syndrome over time. But now, I can discern between something being a really cool course, and something actually being needed. It may be a cool course, but I’m already good at that thing, so I know I don’t need it.
I can tell now when investing is going to elevate me or when it’s going to be a tool on the road to revealing my business legacy versus becoming a distraction.
Tayla: Well, yeah, because you’ve already built your skills. And of course, we’re forever students. We should always have a beginner’s mindset, because then you’re always open to curiosity. You’re always open to change and evolve and grow.
But I do find that people are sometimes too forward-focused, and it causes them to forget about the now. They don’t think about what they need now; instead, they think all these things are going to save them if they get to them ahead of time.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t invest in courses. I buy courses still, but I don’t look to them to “save me.”
I have the blueprint for making money. I have the blueprint for building my business. I don’t need those things. But maybe I want to learn about something because one of my clients is doing that. Maybe I want to learn about something because I want to inquire with my knowledge there.
It’s not coming from a place of, “I need that.” It’s coming from a place of, “I actually get to invest in myself, because I am my business, and why would I not want to uplevel myself?”
So the way that I approach things is to never say, “All right, I’m going to buy Beatrice’s course, and then I’m going to implement everything she says.”
Instead, I’m like, “Hey, that’s a really cool topic. I would love to learn more about that skill that could benefit my business.”
I go in, I’m open, I take what I need, and I leave what’s not going to suit my business. Because we’ve got to remember that when we go into a course, that person has created that out of their values, their business legacy, their mission, their personal brand, and everything else to do with them. It’s all made out of themselves. So if you go and implement that into your business, that’s okay, but just remember there has to be wiggle room for what’s yours.
I could have so many conversations with Tayla, truly. She’s such an incredible mentor with so much wisdom to share about business legacy, business foundations, and so much more.
If you want to work with or learn more about Tayla, her links will be included below. And if you want to hear our full interview, listen to Episode 216 of The Self Love Fix podcast!
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