Here’s the truth about money and an abundance mindset: abundance mindset is great. But I’ve done money work for a while, and I’ve learned a lot…including that you can have an abundance mindset until kingdom come, but it’s not what you say that reveals the truth of how you feel about money. It’s the way that you actually move with money that tells you how you truly feel about abundance.
With abundance mindset, you’re often told to use affirmations—“Money is flowing, I have more than enough, I don’t have to worry about money,” etcetera—and that’s great. You can affirm all that you want, but the real revealer about your relationship with money and abundance mindset is how you spend money and how you move with money.
Your action tells a story about what you’re aligned to. So it’s twofold: it’s about the language we use about money when we’re not consciously thinking about it, and it’s about the daily actions we take with money when we’re not thinking about it. These things reveal the truth about how we actually feel about abundance.
Yesterday, I went to Mela Bistro, one of my favorite Oakland restaurants. If you live in the Bay Area, please go out there and support them. It’s an excellent family-owned Ethiopian restaurant.
I got the Ahi Tuna Tartar, and with tip and everything, it came out to be just about thirty bucks. And I realized something that made me aware of where I’m actually at and how far I’ve come: when I bought the entree, I didn’t think about it. I didn’t look on the menu to try and figure out the cheapest thing to get. I just looked at the menu and thought, “What do I want to eat?”
There was a time when I would look at a menu and I would go, “What’s the cheapest entree?” And if the entrees were too much money, I’d head to the appetizers.
A lot of how I was moving with money was not actually based on how I wanted to move. It was this really matrix-y programming that told me, “You always have to get the cheapest thing. You don’t want to waste money.” So I wouldn’t buy the things I actually wanted to buy at restaurants. I would just buy what I thought made sense.
This is where we really get to catch how we actually feel about money. Again, you can say you have this abundance mindset all you want, but if you’re still getting tightness in your chest at the idea of spending a couple dollars more on an entree you actually want (even though you have the money), then that tells you the truth about your abundance mindset.
Does this ever happen to you? Even when you have the money, do you make up all these crazy wild stories where you tell yourself, “This is a waste of money. I shouldn’t spend money like that. This is too much money. That’s expensive.”
The language we use around money when we aren’t thinking about it reveals how we feel about it.
There’s so much guilt and shame programming around money. We project everything on that bad boy. We drown in shame and guilt about it, because we actually move like it’s a limited resource, and it’s not.
That said, I’ll tell you what: if you move like it’s a limited resource rather than moving with an abundance mindset, don’t be surprised if it actually functions as a limited resource.
For me, the shame story that gets me is wasting money. However, I actually feel like I’m wasting money when I spend it on something low quality and cheap.
One of the definitions of cheap is “inexpensive because of inferior quality.” This is why language matters so much to me. I can’t even say the word “cheap” because of the frequency of that word.
Now, my mindset isn’t to hunt down the highest-priced item in the store or on the menu, either. That’s not how I move with money. I just move with the frequency of, “What do I desire to get?” That’s it. But there was a time where I had a lot of this language: “What’s the cheapest thing? What’s the thing that makes sense?”
I will never get over that one. Who defines what makes sense? What does that even mean?
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I say this all the time: there’s money flowing in cash registers in stores next to you. There’s money in banks next to you. There’s money all around the world. There’s money in the stock markets moving every minute.
There is literally money everywhere. It’s not a limited resource.
I feel like there is so much of what I call “matrix programming” around money. Because once you step outside of this matrix, you’re just like, “This is so funny. Why have I been viewing money like this?”
This is why I created the Money Beyond the Matrix Masterclass, because I have a deep desire for people to actually have a supportive relationship to money. It will change your life. It will change your nervous system.
There are so many of us running around with frantic nervous systems around money, a resource that’s actually limitless, but we’re running around filled with shame, blame, guilt, and panic. It’s not a normal state of being. It’s not how we’re meant to be.
Now, I like a good deal too. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t always have to be the cheapest brand, nor does it have to be the most expensive.
For example, this is what I used to do when I would go shopping in my early twenties: I would go into H&M or Zara or wherever, and I would go straight to the clearance rack.
Not because I wanted to, but because I told myself a story about how I could not buy full-price items. I couldn’t buy full-price things, because that was a waste of money. I could only buy clearance-item things. And if I even dared to go to the full-priced items, I actually felt somatically dysregulated. I actually panicked.
I told myself, “Who am I to get a $25 shirt? No. Why get a $25 shirt when you can get a $15 shirt from the clearance rack? That’s a better way to spend money.”
I had the money to spend. But I told myself stories that limited the ways I was allowed to spend it.
This really speaks to whether we’re really moving with abundance. If you have a resource and you still say no to yourself, it’s not about the resource. It’s about the rules you’ve made up about how you get to move in the world.
Now, instead of having a true abundance mindset, you’ve attached meaning about yourself to money.
I don’t actually attach any meaning about myself to money. Not how much I make. Not how much I have. I actually don’t attach meaning to myself about it.
Nowadays, you wouldn’t catch me saying, “I have to go straight to the clearance aisle.” It’s about what I want. If I desire to go to the clearance aisle, or if I desire to go thrifting, I do it because I desire it, not because I’m shaming myself.
Do we see the difference? One frequency is a frequency of scarcity, the other is a frequency of abundance mindset.
Money is an amplifier. When you understand the energetics of money and how money actually flows, you start to feel very, very differently about spending it. There’s not all this constrictive hoarding. You start to tap into the limitlessness of money.
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