Re-mothering and Nurturing Yourself
Before we get started…
Hi! If you are new to me and my work, my name is Beatrice and I am the host of the Self Love Fix podcast and a self love coach who helps womxn break through limiting beliefs & childhood trauma in order to create the lives they desire.
Welcome to my first ever post over here on the Self Love Fix blog! Writing is actually one of my favorite ways to express myself so I am incredibly happy to be able to bring life to a new medium and lens to further dive deep into self-love, self-worth, and self-connection.
Re-Mothering
I grew up in a home with a narcissistic mother where my emotional needs were not met. My physical needs, on the other hand, were met but only when intertwined and coated in guilt, expectation, and worst of all, disregard.
Most people who grew up in a narcissistic home can recall having their basic needs met (food, home, clothes etc.) but always felt a sense of disconnection from their parent(s). That disconnection is the disconnection from the emotional connection and nurturing that is critical for you to feel safe within yourself and your body.
If you didn’t know already, I’m totalllly into astrology and in astrology, the moon (ruled by zodiac sign Cancer) represents the body, intuition, feelings, the mother, the emotions, and security. It is no coincidence that the mother and the moon represent all of the things that help us feel connected to ourselves.
We are supposed to learn how to gain connection to ourselves- to our bodies through our mother or maternal figure and when that lesson is missed, we can end up feeling like an alien within our bodies. We feel disconnected from our emotions and feelings and as a result we do not feel security within ourselves.
We learn not to trust ourselves.
We learn that our emotions and feelings lie to us.
We learn to look everywhere but within ourselves for nurturing and security.
What is the antidote to a disconnection from our mothers due to trauma? To begin to mother yourself.
Take inventory of how you currently show up as a mother to yourself:
Do you find that you judge yourself frequently?
When it comes to taking care of yourself do you rush? Do you take it slow? Do you find this to be a chore? A joy?
When it comes to taking care of your space that you reside in… do you show care and concern for the things you own? What does the upkeep of your space look like?
Do you regard some of your emotions as acceptable and others as unacceptable?
The Key Thing Is…
……The type of mothering you need is unique to YOU.
Ask yourself, “what type of mothering do I need?”
Thank you for reading and don’t forget…
If you enjoyed what you read, please make sure to find me over on instagram or to check out my podcast over at the Self Love Fix.😍
